Sunday, September 20, 2009

Choose Happiness!!

This is my self-proclaimed mantra this year. It has become a bit of a joke between a few of us at work...I think the young'uns might be making fun of me but I don't care. You know why? Because I am frickin there!

Really, what is the alternative? And don't be glib and say, "Um, duh, moron...the alternative is unhappiness". Because that type of cheekiness is not necessary in my happy world. There are many reasons and ways to be happy. I shall illustrate:

1. Things can be suckish at times...stressful and overwhelming. But you can meet things head on and deal with them, or you can bitch about it and blame others. I spent a lot of time in my younger years doing just this. And really, it takes more effort than just doing what you need to do. Be it work, family or social obligations...things are only as bad as you let them be.

2. Being mad and bitter take A LOT of effort (plus, it is bad for frown lines). If you got killed by a bear tomorrow would you want to leave some things the way they are now? If the person you are mad at got killed by a bear tomorrow how would that pan out for you? Think about it. It may not be worth it.

3. Most people who annoy you do so not because they want to, but because they are concerned, worried or scared about something. If it has to do with their kids put yourself in their shoes...if it were your kid, would you be upset too? If the answer is yes, then stop being annoyed and help them address the problem.

4. Waiting sucks...but sometimes there is no choice. I'm not talking about morons at McDonald's who don't know what to order and hold up the line...those people deserve a little shove. But find something else to do when you are forced to wait for something important. Play on Facebook, read a book, watch General Hospital, call me for a drink. Obsessing raises the blood pressure...I know, I spent lots of time doing this in the past.

5. Say no sometimes. Lots of overstressed, grumpy people are that way because they take on too much. Say no once in awhile. Maybe your family needs you; maybe you have some magazines to read. Whatev, do something for YOU. It is ok.

6. Focus on what you can do and what you can change. I know there are some things I can't change so I move on; it doesn't mean I have given up. But if I soldier on and do MY best the annoying things have less of an effect on those around me. Sitting around complaining accomplishes nothing.

7. Spend time laughing. If there aren't people in your house or at your work who make you laugh, you may need a change of scenery. If you can't be friends with people at work and consider them merely "people I work with" then you may very well be in the wrong career. I feel bad for you because I can't imagine not laughing at work or at home, for that matter.

8. Along the same lines, enjoy your job. Life is too short.

9. The days may go slowly, especially when trapped in the house on a rainy day with your kids. But the years go quickly. Don't blink. Over the mantle in my house it says, "Life isn't a matter of milestones, but of moments". It is true, enjoy things as they come and choose to be happy.

10. Have friends of all ages...the young ones make you remember what it was like, keep you up on music and good nightspots and the more mature ones remind you to add more to your retirement account and seem to know a lot about prescription drugs.

I know I am going out on a limb time I'm in a pissy mood someone will be all, "Choose happiness, Amy!" and I might punch them. But hey, once I get that out of my system I'm sure I will feel better.


  1. You. Are. Awesome.


    I love this post for a zillion reasons, but just a couple are the fact that myself and other people I know need to hear exactly these things at this time.

    The other is wow, what a philosophy to have. This is a perfect thing to read when you are having a crappy day!

    I repeat: You.Are.Awesome.

  2. ..I see you got the kinks out of those panties!

    #7 You make me laugh, baby!

    Fyi, Bella thinks you are "awesome". I repeat, Bella thinks you are "awesome".

  3. Thanks Bella....and really, while I do have my down moments I have realized over the past year or so, that I am in a pretty good place. Hasn't always been so....but it is now and part of it was me letting go of some crap.

    Blase....kinky panties are generally a temporary thing.

  4. I got nuthin! Nuthin I want to get gut-punched for...

  5. KW...who is punching? You're good with me ;-)

    And given your life history I venture to guess that you have chose happiness over and over and dealt with what life threw at ya!

  6. This was a very thought provoking and well thought out post. I try to adhere to this philosophy most of the time (I'm a life coach so need to walk to talk).

    I enjoyed checking out your blog.

  7. Thanks Peach Tart...I teach elementary school so I do try to be positive!

    I'm not all rainbows and unicorns all the time...but I think that keeping things in perspective is important!


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